What does it take to Achieve Success?

I am writing to you in a mood of frustration… It is a little after 11:00 PM eastern and I decided to come in from my campfire I was setting around and vent a little.

I have a 19 year old from our youth group at Church living with my family, and has been for a couple months now.

He moved away from home and needed a place to stay and pretty much someone to stay on top of him and get him graduated from High School.  Without much hesitation we took him in. This young man has always had a very special spot in the hearts of my wife and I.

Well with a lot of effort on his part and ours he made it.  I hope he really felt what it was like to actually succeed.  He deserved the chance he got and I could not be more proud of him.

Question just went through my mind… Why do we sometimes fear success?  Well that is not where I am going with this post so will let you just ponder on that question.

Now that he is graduated from High School we figured it was time to go out and experience the life he is so craving.  He is 19 and figures he has the world by the horns and ready to take it on and ready for all the responsibilities that come along with adulthood. 

Sure wish I could clue him in but you know how it is. Can’t tell them and if you do they really do not listen.  They just say, ” I have to figure it out on my own and If I make mistakes I will have to deal with them.

Seems to me that life would be so much easier if we just would just listen and learn from those that have been through the things we are now experiencing.  And yes it is easy for you to say, “I agree with you Jeff,  Why don’t they just listen to the voice of reason and experience.  “Only problem I have with that is… I see the same thing happening with people trying to get started with an online business.  We just muddle through trying to do it all ourselves and then yell for help once we find ourselves in trouble or banging our heads against the brick walls that we run into.

It really seems it would be much easier to find a good experienced coach and let them instruct, and guide us around the pitfalls. Sure save a lot of headaches and money that we endlessly pour into the next new flashy product that comes out.  When we do get a coach it seems like we would listen to the advice we are paying for.

Well to me that makes sense.  but to many it must not because I can tell students to stop buying product after product and just go through the course and follow the instructions I am giving and a few days later I hear the excitement in their voice as they joyously tell me of the new product they just bought.  I guess some of us stay 19 forever.

OK back to the 19 year old.  Since he moved in we have pretty much supported him financially.  I fully took this responsibility on myself and it is something I truly wanted to do.  I have no regrets whatsoever.  But Along with becoming an adult also comes responsibility.  It is time for this young man to look for work.  Not going to be an easy task in this economy but with some good honest and persistent looking I really believe he can find a job.  for me to allow him to just set around and continue to support him will not help him one bit. So the job hunt is on.

We started out with a couple filled applications and I guess that was good because he took a few days off and then wanted to know why they had not called him yet.

Well a week went by and I finally interfered and said it was time to do some productive looking again.  The next day we filled out another 9 applications until he decided he just could not fill out one more. 

Now 5 days later and still no more attempts he has decided that it is time to play for a bit.  I guess my thinking was that it is the beginning of a new week and it is time to go put in some more time looking for work.  After all if we really want something we sometimes really have to put in the extra effort to make it happen.  Most of the time life just not dump success in our laps.

I know you are probably thinking I should kick this guy to the curb and let him find out the hard way.  What would happen if I did that?

Once again it is easy for us to pass judgment, but as a coach I see this all the time.  We get into a coaching program and want the coach to do all the work for us and we are frustrated when things are not happening for us right now.  We want a business and we want to make money online so we do not have to go work for someone else but we do not want to put the effort it takes to make it happen.  Those that do reap the reward.  Those that don’t find someone to blame for their failure.

Our Dreams do not have to remain dreams… Success is achievable.  If we want something bad enough and it is worth having we will do whatever it takes to see that it happens. 

I guess we need to want it bad enough.  If that is you then lets make it happen together.  I am willing to put the same amount of time in helping you make money online and make your dreams happen as I am for this 19 year old that I took in.

I guess I have vented enough of my frustrations and it is time to have a long talk with my 19 year old friend.  I have some things to say he may not like to hear and he has the right to make a choice with how he deals with what I say.  He can get mad and move on and call me a big jerk for not giving him a chance, or he can say I appreciate you taking the time to care and I want to get to work and take on my new responsibilities.  I am praying for the second of the choices.

Thanks for Listening to me vent.

Jeff Wellman

ONE little ME and ONE BIG GIANT BRICK WALL… I am out of here!

Well it seems I have hit another brick wall and I have had enough, so I am just going to have to GIVE UP!  The Giant is really big this time and looks like I better count my losses while I am still alive and able to run!

Just finished reading emails from customers of a product that I am involved in and thought I would share, because I just bet you can identify.

WOW!  Seems like several have hit a brick wall and are throwing their hands up in the air and are surrendering to the Brick Walls and fears.

Heard it all in these emails.

Jeff, great course but… Reply: But What?

Jeff, My finances are so bad and things are so desperate that I just can’t see how I can concentrate enough to do this right now… Reply: How much worse does it need to get, and if you can’t do it now how will you do it once it gets worse?

Jeff, I just can’t do this right now maybe later… Reply:Later? When is that…I still have not discovered this later. Does later ever come? If so hang in there and Get-er-Done

Jeff, I am sure this is a good course if I had the time to go through it…could you please send me a refund… Reply: Are you kidding me…You need to at least open it up and try. If not you need to stop and think about what is going on in your life right now that may get in your way and prevent you from getting one more thing accomplished before you buy another product.

Jeff, I have hit yet another brick wall and I just don’t know how much more I can take… Reply: If you don’t face this one and conquer it like the last one you faced and beat, you will soon find out how much you can take, and it won’t be a good conclusion. What got you through the last one? who helped you? You have to do it again with the same effort and force, or maybe a little more but you can make it once again!  You have to!

Jeff, You guys have created such an amazing course but it seems I just am not meant to make this happen for me… Reply: Who is your success meant for then?

I have been replying to these emails all morning and decided enough was enough after I got one reply back saying, “Jeff you just didn’t understand what I am going through but if you would have had to do this by your self and would not have had Keith’s help I bet you would not be in the position you are in right now.

I was going to reply back to that email but decided I was not going to let it have a negative effect on what I am going to try and type here…so I deleted the thing into wherever our deleted emails go and came here to post to all.

Yup I sure did have my son’s help…Guess what You have help also. Since that time I have been stuck many times and found myself wondering if I was cut out to make this happen for myself.

Faced some of the same brick walls you face and maybe even a couple different ones.  But brick walls are usually self erected or erected by someone else and they can be blown up or taken back down one brick at a time.

Now facing my brick walls I had a couple choices to make just like you do when you come to those stuck times or brick walls along your path.

Choice 1: Face the brick wall as just another challenge to overcome and find a way around it, over it, or smash it to pieces and go through.

Choice 2: Look at it as a big Giant that is way too big for me to take down and quick do a U-turn and run the opposite way looking for a new direction to take hoping there will not be another obstacle in the way on that path.

Choice 2 is the most traveled path, but the only problem with this choice is that there is always going to be another obstacle. And if we don’t get them out of our way or defeat them, we will always be looking for another way to go…and soon you will run out of places to run and just give in to the obstacles in defeat.

We all face giants in life and some of them are pretty big and scary.  But look back in your life and see how many of them you have already defeated.

How did you do it before? Please do not tell me that you have not faced any that you know of or that they were not as big as they are now.  The reason you do not see the giants of your past as big as the present ones now are because the ones of your past are now defeated. Defeat the new ones with the same force.  Make it happen for you, not just watch everyone else around you make it happen for them.  That is just plain a bunch of BULL!

If they are not defeated yet it is time to get them defeated so you can move on and know how to take care of the ones in your way now.

What is going to take for you to say, ” I am worthy of Success, and I deserve to make this happen for me?”

I know someone just thought or said, I don’t know how or you don’t know what I have been through.  Your right but you don’t know what I have been through, or Keith, or anyone else that has faced and beat the giants, or smashed the brick walls. It really does not matter if you know either.  But ask yourself.  Have you really tried? 

I am not just saying have you tried…I am asking you to ask yourself HAVE ”I” REALLY TRIED!

I am sure I may have even ticked a couple people off and I say… GOOD!

I don’t even want to know where my life would be right now if I would have let one of the brick walls stop me from smashing through it.

Each and every one of us have the capabilities of achieving success and turning our dreams into reality, but unfortunately not all will use the capabilities they have.

Will you?

Will you keep going through the course until you get it?

Will you show up to the Live Q&A calls and ask questions you can’t figure out?

Will you use the forum and take advantage of the unlimited amount of resources you have in each other?

Will YOU?

Let’s make 2009 Rock for you.

OK let me know what you’re thinking. I need more info for product content

Hey don’t think badly about me for saying or thinking that.  It is what I am supposed to do. Pay attention to the customers and find out what they need and want, and what they are thinking, and what problems they have. and then provide a solution.

You have access to the same information if you come back and read the comments.  You just need to use it.

Maybe you can offer some advice to others on how to throw down a giant

Now I understand that if you are reading this you may not have all of the tools and access to the same tools I have described but it is available if you want it.  But if you had it would you be willing to use everything that was available to you.

WOULD YOU REALLY?  Easy to say yes right now isn’t it… but what about the GIANT?

Well here is access to all of the tools The Auto Pilot Wealth Institute make it happen!

Jeff

PS: Great post by Heather Vale. Seems we are all on the same track this Brand New Year.  I remember seeing her as one of the big scary giants that was standing in my way t success.  When I did reasearch on her before Interviewing her I was met by some words that terrified the heck out of me… Heather Vale, The Barbara Walters of the Internet,  Yikes!  Well they were just words and caused me no harm.  What I found is that it wasn’t her that was keeping me from doing the interview or the words…it was me.  http://heathervale.com/blog/2009/01/02/banish-fear-anxiety-and-worry/trackback/

Rapid Cash Marketing Is Here To help You make Quick Cash in 2009

Jeff Wellman, Dixie Brown, and Paul Counts have teamed up together to give you the help you need to start earning the extra cash you need to help you fight back against a poor economy.

We have been helping people for some time learn to make money on the Internet and create a good sustainable online business and online presence through our coaching programs

We have found some common problems that our students have had and continue to have that keep many from ever achieving their dreams.  Some give up just before it really all begins to happen.

One of the biggest problems we see is that people just plain and simple lack the cash that it takes to get them going.  The next problem is that they struggle so long without ever making a dime that they give up and stop believing it is even possible for them.

They walk away saying, ” I am glad it works for you but I guess I am just not one that is suppossed to live ot my dreams. I guess they will stay just that.”

Are you kidding me?  I believe everyone has the right to live out their dreams and everyone is capable of making them happen. 

To many people find themselves so down and out by all that life has thrown at them that they do not even feel it is worth trying anymore, or worse yet they get to the point they just don’t feel that they deserve, or are worthy of succeeding.

Well my partners and I are setting out to try something different in our coaching approach and that is this…

We want to help you earn money first through some quick or rapid cash methods that we use, and once you are making some money and seeing some results in your own life then we will take you further and help you set up your own online business and online presence and help you achieve a good sustainable income that you can build upon to fight back and defeat this poor economy that has been taking it’s toll on so many.

Stop worrying about loosing your job or how your bills will get paid each month, or how you will just continue keeping a roof over your families head.

We want to help you fight back through our rapid cash marketing system and right

We are running a contest through Jan 11, 2009 that will give 4 winners the opportunity to learn our rapid cash methods with free one-on-one coaching.

Just go to our rapid cash marketing blog and post a comment letting us know what this would mean to you.  Just tell us your story.

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We will be announcing the winners on Jan 12, 2009 and getting them started right away.

Good luck to you!

To Your Rapid Cash Success

Jeff Wellman

We are giving our Mind traffic or Mind Chatter a GREAT DEAL OF POWER in our life!

One of the things I have noticed while looking over a lot of the homework assignments, and answering questions from The Million Dollar Advantage Program students that my son Keith and I have been doing together is that several of the students are sufferring from something  i like to call Mind Traffic or mind chatter.

I recently did a webinar for my coaching students on this topic and I want to share a little with you from that webinar…

There are a lot of people that are having a lot of problem with mind chatter.  We are letting all of the negative chatter going on inside our heads control our success.  We are giving our Mind traffic or Mind Chatter a GREAT DEAL OF POWER in our life.

We’re having conversations in our heads all the time. 

I have noticed it seem there are many of us that are like a gerbil running on a wheel in its cage – feet working furiously, but not getting anywhere.  Like the gerbil, our minds love to be busy. 

In the absence of other information, our minds sometimes fill themselves with worries, doubts or fears.  It seems that our mind is constantly looking for the worst-case scenario.

I think this pattern originates in childhood.  As a child we are always facing new situations, and we risked embarrassment or injury if we didn’t respond skillfully. Or how other’s feel we should have responded.   So we become vigilant  in our minds about how we can protect ourselves from feeling the feelings of embarrassment or  failure.

The voice that started off warning us about potential danger becomes hyper-vigilant and is always looking for danger  or ways to protect you against these feelings of failure or embarrassment sometimes seeing it when it’s not actually there. 

Our minds get busy with a sort of self-conscious “brainstorming.”

We have to begin to create a new belief that includes using conscious controlled attention as the basis for keeping your mind chatter under control.

First, take a breath.  Calm yourself.  Let your mind become clearer.  Remember that thoughts are just thoughts and worries are just worries; they aren’t reality.  Well at least not yet!  But to may people let them become reality.

Think of creating an internal supporter to sit at the committee table.  Unlike your critic inside your head (who spends all his time looking for ways that you’re screwing up, or telling you why you are going to fail at what you are doing), this voice is one of encouragement. 

This controlled voice might say:  Hey, you’ve been here before.  You know what to do.  Don’t listen to those other guys! It might say, “Hey remember the last brick wall you faced?  You thought it was going to defeat you also but it didnt. You made it through and you will this time. Lets just take afew minutes and see how we can come up with a solution for this wall.”

Begin to use “affirmations” or sayings that you can say in the face of your negative mind chatter, to counteract it. Like, I can do this, or, I am good enough, God doesn’t make junk, How can I make this work, I will find a way!

What if we take all that energy, used by the mind for just chattering away about what was, or about the fears of the moment, and focused all that energy into being what we were created to be, and do?

Ask yourself a couple questions…

Why do you want to achieve the success you are looking for right now, and what is the reward of your success?

What are the consequences if you fail at what you are doing?  If you fail at making this course work for you and you do not acheive the success you desire and crave so much what will be the cost?

Maybe you have had problems with negative mind chatter or you are having troubles with it now.  Let the rest of us hear from you and let us know what is going on or maybe how you deal with this topic.

Passion to Profit-Finding your Passionate niche Market

WHAT’S YOUR PASSION? You must find your true Passion… Turn your passion into profit…

No matter what way you have heard it I am sure you have heard this  more times than you can count.

What is it that gets people stuck with this step more than almost any step that needs to be taken when trying to start up your online business.

I have coached several new marketers and each time It seems that the majority end ups frozen in place the minute I ask the phrase…what is your Passion.

Well I have decided that I do not agree that you have to start out passionate about what you are doing to make money.  But you need to become passionate about what you are doing.  So for now on I am not going to start out telling my coaching students to find a Niche that they are passionate about when they first start out.

If they can figure that question out and it works out that they are passionate about the Niche they start in great… But if not oh well… let’s just get started moving forward in something that is going to be profitable and then discover what our passion is as we go.

When I first got my start online I do not think I could have answered this question right away either.  My passion was God and my family.  But ask me how in the world would I ever be able to monetize either one of those subjects and I would have stared at you with a blank look on my face.

My son Keith Wellman did something very smart with me.  He offered me a choice of 5 categories that he knew was profitable already and he said pick one that you know nothing about and let’s get started.

Well it was easy as I knew nothing about any of the 5 topics he gave me to pick from.  Most certainly there was no passion involved with the choice I made either.

I picked Affiliate Marketing and within 3 weeks I put together a product which I called  Layoff Your Boss http://www.layoffyourboss.com and launched a very successful launch that generated over $100,000.00 in just under 30 days.

Ths was fantastic but as time went on something began to happen.  I began to lose interest in what I was doing and I found myself procrastinating and not wanting to even keep going.  Even though I knew I was doing something that had the possibility to generate more money than I would even know what to do with, I just had no drive to keep doing what I was doing.

I was ready to go back to work for someone else…UNTIL something amazing happened.

After my second product I began to start coaching and mentoring the customers that had just bought my product and doing everything I could to help them get started online.  I began to build tremendous relationships with those I was helping and I started seeing results happening in the lives of those I was coaching. 

My students began to thank me for taking the time to actually care about whether or not they succeeded.  Every little success I seen one of my students make drove me to do more and soon I found myself waking up in the morning ready to go.  Ready to find out how I could help someone else that day.  When I went to bed at night I felt a sense of gratification that what I did during the day was something of value and made a difference in the life of someone else.

What happened that made the difference of wanting to quit and give up to feeling motivated and empowered, and ready to succeed no matter what it took? 

I found my passion.  My passion was there waiting for me to discover what it was…and it was right there in the middle of something I did not start out enjoying at all.

Yes you must discover what your passion truly is but don’t get so caught up on the word Passion that you never find out what it really is.

What am I passionate about?

Answering this question honestly is the only way you’re going to make a go of things. No matter what your ultimate goal is, if you are not interested in what you wake up each day to do, you will not keep at it, and you will not be successful.

You must find it if you don’t know it. It will empower you to attain your dreams faster.  It will keep you going in the bad times, It will keep you motivated in the sluggish times, It will keep your dreams alive and keep you on track to achieve your goals.

Just don’t let it stop you dead in your tracks before you find out what your true passion really is.

I recently have joined forces with one of my mentors Ken McArthur… This man is one of the most giving men I know and he truly has found his passion in life and it aligns with mine totally.  It is helping others see and live their dreams.

We have joined together along with my amazing partner Dixie Brown and we have recently opened a brand new coaching and mentoring program called IMPACT 101.  Our focus is helping the online beginner finally get started achieving the success they have only dreamed about until now.

The New Impact 101 Mentoring System is 100% Customized To Your Abilities So You Succeed Even Faster!  We realize that success is not a one-size-fit-all and therefore needs to fit you as an individual.

If You Are a Beginner Wanting To Reach Millions With Your Ideas, Products and Services Right Now — We Have Something Designed Especially for YOU!

Would love to have you drop by and check us out right now…If your still unsure this might not be for you,  we would love to set up a time to just talk to you on the phone (our dime) and let you get to know us and us get to know you to see if there is anyway we can make something work.

Check out IMPACT 101 right now.  http://www.theimpactfactor.net/impact101

Have an amazing Day

Jeff Wellman